If It Ain’t Broke, You Can Still Maintain It; Empower Your Relationship For The New Year

Increase intimacy and communication; maintain a healthy relationship through couples counselling.

The start of a New Year brings along a world of possibilities; many see it as an opportunity to start over and to create a new narrative for life. The turning of a calendar page can spark a catalyst for change.

According to a 2017 list from GoodTherapy.org, ‘falling in love’ ranked number 9 out of the top 10 New Year’s Resolutions. However, this particular goal focuses more on finding new forms of intimacy, rather than deepening a current relationship.  Why do we get more excited about finding something new, rather than working on an existing partnership(s)? Simple; new romantic and/or sexual experiences provide the opportunity for one appear fresh and exciting in the eyes of someone different. A long-time partner may provide security and stability but they cannot provide the thrill of something new.

In our society, there is often a negative connotation with regards to couples counselling and/or relationship coaching. When a couple (or poly configuration) decides to see a professional for guidance, it is viewed as ‘fixing a problem,’ rather than an enjoyable activity that has the potential to improve what they already have.

International Relationship Coach Alisha Fisher says “There is an incredible stigma that comes with any sort of coaching or counselling because mainly our framework is that something is wrong and we need to see someone to fix it…But what if we were to access coaching/counselling to maintain our healthy relationship?” In short, if we adjust our perception with regards to relationship coaching from negative to positive, this could alter not only the final outcome but also journey itself.

A few years back, my partner and I were given the opportunity to participate in a series of intimacy exercises facilitated by Dr. Jess O’Reilly, as test subjects towards her Happier Couples online video courses. At the time, we were not actively looking for any type of relationship coaching, but saw it more as a fun way to spend the day with one another. The experience was magical. Not only did we learn more about one another on a more intimate level, we had broken our regular routine to try something different. Through a series of questions and activities, our bond deepened and to this day, it is a memory that I still hold dear to my heart.

There is also a misconception that coaching sessions will involve stressful conversations and/or arguing with a partner, but that is not always the case. Many professionals offer a variety of services and dynamic approaches to healthy forms of communication.  Den Temin- a clinical sexologist and founder of ‘Sexplore’-specializes in sexual education workshops, sexual counseling and teaching seminars & workshops catered specifically to couples in the Lifestyle. This versatility offers partners the chance to access Den’s services in a variety of ways; from a quiet office to a sex club like Oasis Aqualounge, to a Lifestyle cruise or convention. These sessions can be serious and/or playful, depending on the end goals of the client themselves.

So, who actually attends relationship coaching and/or for what purpose, if not to solve a particular problem?  Alisha Fisher mentions “Many of the relationships I work with are enhancing what is already there or wanting to explore a new venture of connecting (e.g.: exploring open relationships) but are unsure of how to do so (in a transparent way with their partner). There are also those who want to enhance their communication techniques, to show their partner that they love them, to have more constructive “arguments” rather than destructive…”

Client demographics also range across ages, sexual orientations, gender identities. Den Temin notes that their client’s ages can vary between 20-80 and oscillate between monogamous, multi-partnered and open marriage styles of relationships.

If you are a couple who is looking to explore coaching and/or further education into your relationship dynamics, one exciting place to try this could be at your favorite on-premise lifestyle club. For example, Oasis Aqualounge produces an event, held on the first Friday of every month called ‘Sex School,’ which hosts an array of topics within the realm of communication, sexual techniques and intimacy for couples. If you and your partner are looking to explore in a more light hearted way (within the company of other guests), visiting your favorite venue and attending a workshop might be a great alternative.

For example, I am terrible at talking dirty; I have all of the naughty thoughts but the inability to express them verbally. However, my partner loves dirty talk and of course, I want to accommodate what turns her on. So, we made a date to attend an upcoming Sex School presentation on February 7 at Oasis Aqualounge on Dirty Talk, presented by sex educator Luna Matatas.  Sure, this is a little more causal than private, one-on-one coaching but the sentiment is the same. There is an issue that I want to improve on, in order to further enhance our otherwise healthy and happy relationship, so we decided to make it fun experience and attend a workshop together.  It really can be as easy and as simple as that.

This year, we invite you and your partner(s) to shift your perception with regards to relationship coaching, counselling and sex education in general; start from a place of gratitude and positivity. With the vast number of services and platforms available, maintaining and growing an existing relationship may be the one New Year’s resolution we could actually keep!

Fatima Mechtab
Marketing Director. Event Producer. Business Partner.
Oasis Aqualounge

Annual Naked Polar Bare Dip: 2020

The Oasis Aqualounge community took their annual nude plunge into Lake Ontario to celebrate the first day of 2020.

On Wednesday January 1, the Oasis Aqualounge community participated in a Naked Polar Bare Dip to celebrate the first day of 2020. This annual tradition, which is held on the east end of Cherry Beach, has been going strong for the nine years.

One of the Oasis AquaFlirts leading the group to Cherry Beach for the annual Oasis Aqualounge Naked Polar Bare Dip to celebrate 2020.

Guests and members were welcome to meet us at the club to head down as a group to Cherry Beach. Others decided to meet us, directly on the beach. One of our Oasis AquaFlirts Rae lead the crowd to a perfect spot, where everyone stripped down, in order to take the nude plunge.

The Oasis Aqualounge community bared it all during the Naked Polar Bare Dip, to celebrate 2020.

The Naked Polar Bare Dip gathered about 20 people to Cherry Beach; it was a fun combination of community members and additional participants who were inspired by the activity and wanted to join in, on the fun.

Participants of the Oasis Aqualounge Naked Polar Bare Dip took the plunge into Cherry Beach to celebrate 2020

Following the dip, all who participated were treated to a 50% coupon towards discounted admission and were welcome back to spend the day at Oasis Aqualounge. The group was able to warm up in our heated pool, bubbly hot tub, dry sauna and plush playrooms.

We want to thank everyone who attended the Naked Polar Bare Dip. We wish you all a safe and sexy start to 2020!

Adult Entertainer Ashton Blake Is Cumming in 2020

Oasis Aqualounge is a sexually-charged, water-themed adult playground that embraces a sexually-liberated and non-judgmental environment. W encourage people (and women, in particular) to live our their fantasies, desires and to bring more pleasure to their lives. We also love to welcome adult talent to the club, to perform live for our guests and/or to shoot porn during our monthly Money Shot event.

Marketing Director/Event Producer Fatima Mechtab recently interviewed Ashton Blake; a cam model and Brazzers porn star. Ashton Blake has plans to visit Oasis Aqualounge in 2020 for an exciting and interactive event and we are wet with excitement! Until then, we invite you to learn more about Ashton, for a taste of what’s to cum. If you are an adult entertainment and would live to discuss performing at Oasis Aqualounge, please email info@oasisaqualounge.com, attention Fatima M, for more details.

Cam model and porn star Ashton Blake will be visiting Oasis Aqualounge in 2020, Toronto, Canada. Stay tuned for exciting updates.

Q: Tell us a little more about you and your career in the adult industry. How did you get started?

A: I started as a cam girl.  Brazzers then contacted me to see if I would be interested in filming.  

Q: What was your first porn experience like?

A: My first video was with Brazzers.  I was extremely nervous.  Never traveled in my life.  I can admit I wasn’t much of an actress.  

Q: What is your favorite part of being an adult entertainer?

A: I have  pushed my boundaries with sexual interests.  I don’t think that I would have considered a gang bang before filming for the adult industry.

Q: Tell us about some of your upcoming projects.

A: I am in the process of creating content for my OnlyFans.com/TheRealAshtonBlake.  

Cam model & porn star Ashton Blake will be visiting Oasis Aqualounge in 2020, in Toronto, Canada. Stay tuned for exciting updates

Q: In your opinion, do you feel that sex clubs like Oasis Aqualounge could be helpful to those looking to explore themselves? If so, why?

A: I visited my first swing club when I was in my twenties.  I don’t know at that time I knew what my interests were, but I think over time, you start to ask yourself questions that create your boundaries, that fit into your lifestyle.  Clubs like Oasis Aqualounge help people to discover what their interests are and what they hope they can be.

Q: What advice would you give to those who are interested in the adult industry?

A: It is a lot of work, not just fucking.  Remember, this is your career so it will become a regular part of life.  Being honest with yourself and family helps to create solid living, lifestyle

Q: Name a favorite part(s) of your body and why?

A: I hate to pick one thing.  I consider myself the whole package.  Why settle for one part?

Cam model and porn star Ashton Blake is visiting Oasis Aqualounge in 2020, in Toronto, Canada. Stay tuned for exciting updates.

Q: What is your favorite way to relax when you have down time?

A: Sitting by the pool relaxing with a Titos and soda.  People watching and hanging out with friends.

Q: What is a belief that you live by, every day?

A: Life is short.  Enjoy each moment and learn from it.