How to find a Unicorn

Many couples want to know how to find a unicorn to indulge their ultimate fantasy of finding a woman to join them for a threesome. Within ‘lifestyle terms,’ a ‘unicorn’ is considered a bisexual woman who is interested in having sex with both the female and male of the couple.

Unicorns are named as such because they are rare. And while the idea of having a hot threesome with a beautiful woman is popular, not everyone is successful in their search.

For couples who have attended our Unicorn Night event, held on the fourth Saturday at Oasis Aqualounge, a common practice is to seek out willing, solo women to join them for play. But just because you want something (or someone!) doesn’t mean they will automatically appear.

This blog will share not only how to find a unicorn but also, how to understand who unicorns are and what they want when seeking out couples for intimate encounters.

Your Dynamic as a Couple Matters

In sex-positive spaces, such as sex clubs or private play parties, the way you interact with your partner will be noticed.  Is your relationship loving, considerate and respectful? Or are the fumes of jealousy and insecurity orbiting your partnership?

Since unicorns are humans, and not objects, they will pick up on the way you two communicate and how you navigate a sexually-charged environment. And any hints of toxic behavior will most likely scare off your desired, magical rarity.

Before you consider playing with ‘a third,’ it’s important that your partnership is stable. Enjoying a threesome may be one way to get out of a sexual rut but remember that it’s not the responsibility of a unicorn to tiptoe around jealousy or to ‘add spice’ to your existing relationship.

The Difference Between Being Polyamorous and Enjoying a Sexual Adventure

Not all unicorn hunters are created equally. Some may desire an exciting sexual experience within their otherwise closed relationship. Other couples may choose a triad or explore a polyamorous union with another woman, which could involve a committed relationship with all three individuals or a more casual arrangement.

Understanding the diverse preferences of unicorn hunters and unicorns is crucial. Some unicorns may be polyamorous and seek a triad relationship, while others may be more interested in casual, NSA (‘no strings attached’) sexual experiences. “And this arrangement might appeal to a single woman for many reasons. Maybe she enjoys the attention and feeling of being special that she gets from fulfilling a couple’s fantasy.” This knowledge empowers us to navigate these relationships with respect and understanding.

Knowing your preferences as a couple and what your unicorn is seeking will help you determine where to find your mythical beauty.

What’s the Best Way to Find a Unicorn?

You can’t find what you are looking for unless you know where to look. Similar to any adult who is seeking intimate encounters, unicorns can often be found at sex or swingers’ parties. Many unicorns use dating apps specific to ENM configurations, such as Feeld or our 231 Mutual Connections page.

However, where you find a unicorn will result in what you are looking for as a couple. If you are seeking a purely sexual experience, we suggest visiting our Unicorn Night event at Oasis Aqualounge or a swinger’s party. “Swingers events are typically for straight couples and single women, and the hookups and interactions tend to be much more focused on sex and one-night-only, so it’s an appropriate place to show up with your unicorn hunting mission.”

Suppose you are looking to build a triad relationship or to date a unicorn outside of casual sex. In that case, you should set up a dating profile to seek out other unicorns looking for the same relationship configuration

Understanding the Mystique: What Makes Unicorns Unique

For many, unicorns are an enigma. But why are they considered so mysterious? The truth is that unicorns are well sought-after, and sometimes, that can feel overwhelming.

These women possess their own desires and fantasies; they are not just starring roles in your coveted threesome. And if a unicorn senses that she may be (unwillingly) objectified, it’s easy to scare off this exceptional being.

Unicorns are unique because they are singular, independent from your relationship, and in high demand. They understand their power; unicorns know the difference between need and want. And thus, they can appear or disappear, depending on the circumstances.

Building Trust with Unicorns

One of the best tools in finding a unicorn is to create an environment of trust, regardless if the interaction is a casual sexual encounter or a budding relationship.

You can start by showing genuine interest in the woman you both desire. Ask her questions about herself, learn about her interests, fantasies and also, her boundaries. Prioritize making her feel safe and considered; allow her to voice any concerns or inquiries she may have.

And while within immediate sexual encounters there is usually an urgency to play, provide enough time for your unicorn to feel aroused and comfortable, at her own pace.

How to Find A Unicorn at Unicorn Night at Oasis Aqualounge

There are plenty of avenues on where you can find a unicorn. Our Unicorn Night event at Oasis Aqualounge is a popular option for couples who are looking for a woman to join them.

But beyond just attending the event with high expectations, it’s important to incorporate tools to help attract what you might be seeking.

Don’t be afraid to make the first move to approach a unicorn; many solo women prefer a couple to be proactive. Unicorns have also expressed that sometimes, they prefer one person within the couple to approach them first (generally the woman), with the other person being introduced after some initial conversation.

In addition, know what you want, as a couple. Unicorns don’t want to guess your dynamic or be confused by what you desire from them. Use kind, respectful and direct language to create an atmosphere of transparency.

We always encourage our guests to participate in our unicorn-themed icebreakers at the event. These games allow everyone to interact in a no-pressure environment. You never know what could happen, unless you engage.

Finally, don’t take rejection personally or let rejection taint your existing relationship. If all that happens is that you meet a few unicorns for conversation only, consider that a win; you tried something new! And always remember at Oasis Aqualounge, ask once and only once.