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Annual Naked Polar Bare Dip: 2020

The Oasis Aqualounge community took their annual nude plunge into Lake Ontario to celebrate the first day of 2020.

On Wednesday January 1, the Oasis Aqualounge community participated in a Naked Polar Bare Dip to celebrate the first day of 2020. This annual tradition, which is held on the east end of Cherry Beach, has been going strong for the nine years.

One of the Oasis AquaFlirts leading the group to Cherry Beach for the annual Oasis Aqualounge Naked Polar Bare Dip to celebrate 2020.

Guests and members were welcome to meet us at the club to head down as a group to Cherry Beach. Others decided to meet us, directly on the beach. One of our Oasis AquaFlirts Rae lead the crowd to a perfect spot, where everyone stripped down, in order to take the nude plunge.

The Oasis Aqualounge community bared it all during the Naked Polar Bare Dip, to celebrate 2020.

The Naked Polar Bare Dip gathered about 20 people to Cherry Beach; it was a fun combination of community members and additional participants who were inspired by the activity and wanted to join in, on the fun.

Participants of the Oasis Aqualounge Naked Polar Bare Dip took the plunge into Cherry Beach to celebrate 2020

Following the dip, all who participated were treated to a 50% coupon towards discounted admission and were welcome back to spend the day at Oasis Aqualounge. The group was able to warm up in our heated pool, bubbly hot tub, dry sauna and plush playrooms.

We want to thank everyone who attended the Naked Polar Bare Dip. We wish you all a safe and sexy start to 2020!

Oasis AquaFlirting at the Everything To Do With Sex Show 2019

The Oasis AquaFlirts promote Oasis Aqualounge at the Taboo Sex Show 2019 in Toronto

The Oasis AquaFlirts spent the weekend promoting for Oasis Aqualounge at the Everything To Do With Sex Show, which was held at the International Centre in Mississauga from November 29-December 1, 2019. This fabulous promotional team brought their signature, welcoming smiles and high energy to this annual, consumer show, featuring products, presenters and entertainment from the sex-positive community.

The Oasis Aqualounge booth featured an on-premise Couples Lounge at the Everything To Do With Sex Show 2019

This year, Oasis Aqualounge partnered with SDC to include an on-premise, Couples Lounge as a special addition to our usual set up. The Couples Lounge featured Sybian rides and play furniture, which provided an intimate opportunity for guests to experience a mini-Oasis, right at the show.

The Oasis Aqualounge booth and promotional staff at the Everything To Do With Sex Show 2019.

Our promotional team enjoyed chatting with show attendees; sharing information about the club and our event offerings and handing out promotional material about Oasis Aqualounge. They also took the time to have some playful fun, showing off their vibrant and open-minded personalities.

  • Oasis Aqualounge founder Judy Kaye and Marketing Director/Event Producer Fatima Mechtab presented a seminar entitled ‘Your First Visit To A Sex Club,’ which served to prepare couples on how to get the most out of their visit, as well as providing general information on the diversity of clubs, etiquette and themes.

The Oasis AquaFlirts had an exciting weekend, connecting with our community, supporters and valued members of Oasis Aqualounge. We would like to thank everyone who attended the Everything To Do With Sex Show, as well as our partners from SDC. We look forward to welcoming new and returning customers to the club. See you next year!

Embracing Your Inner Slut; Women’s Sexual Empowerment

Oasis Aqualounge Marketing Director/Event Producer talks about embracing your inner slut & women's sexual empowerment

Embarking on a journey of sexual expression can be exciting and magical; opening up yourself to new experiences and fulfilling carnal fantasies can offer a thrill unlike any other. Making a conscious decision to explore and evolve as a sexual being can result in learning more about one’s physical body, needs, desires, communication style and inner spirit. 

For women in particular, this passage can also offer an empowering opportunity to break through social norms and to reclaim one’s sexual identity, outside of the male gaze. Unfortunately, mainstream society rarely provides women the tools in which to navigate sexuality in a healthy and galvanizing way. Women are seen as either having sex or not having sex, when in reality, sexuality is far more holistic than just the immediate, physical act.

There is often a harmful narrative associated with this dichotomy; women who have multiple, sexual partners are often referred to as ‘sluts,’ and women who are more inhibited are considered ‘uptight,’ or ‘frigid.’ 

What is a woman to do, when faced with judgement and misunderstanding? Personally, I say screw it and just screw; in whatever way feels right to you. You owe it to yourself to live a fulfilling and pleasurable life. Be your own example of what sexual empowerment can look like.

Reclaiming The Word ‘Slut’

The word ‘slut’ has long been used to shame and disempower women who enjoy a varied sex life, especially women who choose on their own terms. However, this word was not always in reference to sexuality.

Online magazine-The Daily Beast-quotes the first definition of slut found in the Oxford English Dictionary is that of “a woman of dirty, slovenly, or untidy habits or appearance; a foul slattern… (By) the 20th century, we seemed to have ditched the definition of ‘bad housekeeper’ and replaced it with the meaning we have now: a woman of loose morals, or, as some would have it, “a woman with the morals of a man.” 

I am not sure about you but being defined as a bad housecleaner and as someone who embodies the strength and autonomy that has been historically reserved only for men sounds pretty good to me!  Much has been written about reclaiming words that server to hurt us and I find that when I dissect a meaning and turn it on its head, it no longer has power over me.   Unapologetic SlutWalk advocate Amber Rose quotes in her essay; …the term slut never seemed to go away—in fact, I began to realize that I’d be called a slut whether I behaved according to other people’s standards or not.” 

In rediscovering my own sexual freedom, I decided to reclaim the word ‘slut,’ and to use it to my advantage. If you have a word that seems to own your spirit, I suggest facing it head-on and taking it back for yourself.  One should also be mindful of how such words permeate our language and our (sometimes subconscious) judgement. If you seek encouragement from other women and/or your peers, set the example and become the support that you wish to receive.

Exploring Taboo Fantasies

Mainstream society does not create a safe space for women to share or explore fantasies that are considered ‘taboo.’  By these, I mean sexual activities such as (consensual) gang bangs, BDSM play, Bukkake and/or sex with strangers (with no intent to create a connection or build a relationship). As women, we are taught to shun what turns us on and what is inside of ourselves, particularly if it is self-serving.

That is why I am constantly inspired by the courage and liberation found within my sex-positive community. I am enamored by women who embrace their desires because it sets a positive example and in turn, helps to strengthen the community. 

A wonderful example can be found at Oasis Aqualounge, via such events as ‘Down To Fuck, and ‘Bukkake Night In Canada.’  Over the years, the numbers of women who attend these events has grown exponentially.  To me, this proves that a) women are truly drawn to these concepts and want to participate on their own terms and b) Oasis Aqualounge has created a culture that serves to encourage and support a women’s right to express herself, without judgement.

If there is a particular fantasy that you want to explore, I encourage you to learn more about it and to find a tribe that will support you along the way. Connect with your peers and ask questions.  Join lifestyle sites like SDC where you can navigate through various forums and articles.

The road traveled towards an empowering, sexual journey will be paved with excitement, vulnerability and lust. In expressing your authentic sexual self, seek out friends and/or lovers that will support you. While mainstream society may never understand or accept you, there are incredible, sex-positive communities that will help you to navigate all of the nuances.  Visit your favorite sex club or check out online forums and keep in mind that whatever you feel or desire is valid. You owe yourself the gift of pleasure and happiness.