How to Make The Right Approach: Do’s and Don’ts at Oasis Aqualounge

Whether it’s your very first time, or whether you’re a veteran, approaching new people at a sex club can be intimidating. We spoke to some of our Oasis Aqualounge hosts, to discuss tips on approaching people


  • Choose a public place to approach someone like the bar, pool, or dance floor
  • Approach someone if they are making eye contact with you, they are smiling, they gesture you to approach them
  • Start with an introduction
  • Try to make engaging conversation by asking them questions about their life
  • Be confident, but not cocky
  • If the conversation is going well, ask if they would like a drink at the bar
  • Try thinking of a coy way to ask if they are interested in going farther instead of straight up asking them to have sex, eg. Are you feeling adventurous tonight?
  • Remember to be yourself


  • Choose private areas to approach someone such the doorway of the locker room, sauna, or shower: people may feel cornered and uncomfortable
  • Ask to “talk” somewhere more private right off the bat
  • Touch anyone without their consent first
  • If you make a connection, don’t follow that person around all night: they will notice.

Want to learn more? Be sure to visit us the fourth Wednesday of every month for The Right Approach, a workshop where you can learn even more about making the right impression. The workshop is covered by the cost of admission.

We even made a video on how to approach people at Oasis, CLICK HERE TO VIEW.

Have any tips, thoughts, or Do’s and Don’ts of your own? Let us know at