Down To Fuck: 1st and 3rd Tuesday Of Every Month

What is DTF? 

DTF stands for Down to Fuck, and Oasis now holds this event the first and third Tuesday of every month. This event is specially designed for women who want to enjoy the company of multiple men (it’s also called gangbang night). While women’s safety is always a priority at Oasis, we have created an event where women can feel emotionally and physically safe and supported to explore this side of their sexuality.   

What makes DTF different from other nights?

DTF is one of our biggest Oasis events each month. If you want to experience a busy night where everyone is excited and ready for an unforgettable time, than you should come to DTF. 

At DTF, we have fun party games with active participation (which are great ice breakers), Aquabella, our Real Doll, comes out to play, we award points to the members of the Players Club, and the gang bangs go on all night long. For more information on all of the fun, continue reading!

Just like on other Oasis Tuesday nights, at DTF the third floor is open to everyone whether accompanied by a woman or not. The ballroom on the second floor becomes a more private space that follows “Wednesday third floor” rules, meaning solo gentlemen must be accompanied by a woman to enter the ballroom space from 8pm to midnight. This quieter space was created at the request of DTF regulars who prefer to select a smaller group of men to interact with and who wanted a space just for their small group.

DTF can get very busy and many people have described DTF as “intense”. It’s a lot of fun, but can get crowded. That’s one reason Oasis has now made DTF two nights every month. We make sure there are lots of staff and security on site to make sure the event runs smoothly, and that if anyone feels overwhelmed we encourage you to reach out to any of the Aquaflirts or floor staff. 

RSVP to DTF

Women who RSVP to DTF will have free entry to the club for themselves as well as a guest they have registered.

RSVP by going to the event and filling in the form at the bottom of the page.  Include your guests name. You must RSVP by 11:30pm the night before.  We do not accept RSVPs on the day of the event.  RSVPs for the next DTF open a few days after the last DTF event and can be found on the event listing for the next DTF.   

You do not need to re-register if you change your guest. As long as we know you are coming to the event and bringing a guest, you’ll be on the list. Note that we ask that you arrive together with your guest, to get the complimentary entry.

Your free entry begins at 7:30pm. If you would like to come for the day, you can pay the daytime door fee or use your players club points for entry. The club is open every day at 11:30am for your enjoyment.  

What to Expect

While free entry for RSVPs begins at 7:30pm, the event itself starts at 8:00pm. Aquaflirts will be downstairs greeting everyone, answering questions and offering tours to first timers.  

At 8:00pm, Aquabella (our Real Doll) comes out to play in the dungeon. Additionally, the third floor becomes open to everyone and the ballroom becomes the private space with “third floor” rules.  

At 9:00pm, there is a champagne toast for the women of DTF in the red bar with Rae and Miranda. Gentlemen, this is a great place to meet and mingle with the women you may be playing with later in the event, and you can purchase your own champagne if you would like to join in the toast. 

Icebreaker games are at 9:30pm in the dungeon. Icebreaker games are usually entertaining to watch, even if you don’t want to play. The games change every event, but could involve simulating oral sex on fruit, playing Twister, or classic party games turned dirty (dirty charades, dirty scattergories). Games are usually a mix of different things to allow a variety of people with different abilities to play, and they are lighthearted in nature. Playing the games, is one way for women to earn points for the Players Club, but it’s also a great way to meet people you want to talk to again later that night.  All rules of asking for consent still apply for anything we play, and you will not be required to do anything you are uncomfortable doing.  

At 11:00, Rae and Miranda will begin checking out all patrons who earned points for the players club. Points will be awarded between 11pm-12am, so please make sure to check out with Miranda and Rae if you are part of the Player’s Club. 

The Players Club

The players club is how we say thank you to the women who have helped make DTF a thriving community, and for participating in our event; the awarded points can be used to purchase memberships or other items from the club. The best part is it’s free to join! 

How to Join

Join the players club at DTF!  Miranda can set you up with a membership starting at 8:00pm in the red bar.  

Pre-registration (RSVPs

Pre-registering for DTF give women and their partners complimentary admission to the DTF event starting at 7:30pm.

Pre-registration closes at 11:30 pm, the Monday before DTF, and opens within a day or two following DTF. Nobody is permitted to register the day of for free admission, but you are welcome to pay the door fee and earn points that night. 

Points

Points can be used to buy a monthly membership to the club, or items from the Preferred Patrons app (like Oasis swag or chocolate). Points can be spent through the app or at the customer service desk on the main floor. 

Points are allocated at the discretion of Rae, Miranda, and Cece based on each person’s contribution to the event. We hope you come and enjoy DTF because you are excited to join the fun, not just to earn points. 

Points will not be awarded to anyone who is rude or entitled to Aquaflirts, staff, and other patrons. 

How do I make sure you are getting “the most” out of your night? 

Just like every other night, the best way to have fun at DTF is to come with an exploratory mindset. Many people attend their first DTF just to see what the event is and don’t necessarily play – that’s okay! You can still have fun playing the games, and even if you don’t end up in a gangbang, you’ll probably make some amazing like-minded friends.

Bring your manners and be polite!  While people are more forward about asking if you are interested in playing at this event, make sure you’re paying attention to “soft Nos” as well as “hard Nos”.  A “soft No” is when someone says “not right now, maybe later, or sorry I have significant other” or perhaps walks away every time you approach. As always, you must ask before you touch, this applies to all genders! This event is all about being respectful and friendly.  

Lastly, a friendly reminder to stay out of the “splash zones” on the third floor. This is a section of the floor taped off. We like to give people playing some room to breathe while they’re playing, so unless specifically invited past the tape lines, please do not step over these lines.  

I would like help facilitating my gangbang!

Excellent – the Aquaflirts are always happy to help.  We have a few options for you.  

Option 1 – Tent Cards

Ask Rae or Cece for a tent card with matching wristbands.  You decide what time you want your gangbang, where, and with whom. When you’ve decided a time, we will write that time on the card and wristbands. You can hand out wristbands to all the people you want in the gang bang. This makes it easy for people to identify who is supposed to be there, and who isn’t. When it’s time, find your location, place your tent card somewhere visible, and have fun. The Aquaflirts will make sure to announce that the gang bang is beginning, and for all people with the matching colour wristband to join you.

Option 2 – Spontaneous

If you are interested in a gang bang but don’t want to schedule it, approach the people you are interested, take them to the space you want to play in, and have fun! 

Gangbang Monitors

Some people like to have an additional person there to monitor and make sure that everything is happening safely. That’s why we allow you to bring a guest in with you. Many people have a friend or partner play the role of gangbang monitor. We have security guards and Aquaflirts frequently checking on all the play spaces. Aquaflirts are not trained as security, and may not be available to stay near during your entire play time, but if one is available you can certainly ask if they can stand nearby while you get started to keep an eye on things.  

Which Aquaflirt do you talk to for what?

Have questions about games, activities, point values, and general timing of the evening?  Ask Rae!

Have questions about the Players Club? Ask Miranda!

Have questions about other events and Aquabella? Ask Cece!  

There will be two Aquaflirts in addition to Rae, Cece, and Miranda, and they are also happy to answer any questions about the event and the club. All our staff wear name tags, however Rae works naked. Look for the person with “Rae” written in sharpie across her chest. 

I LOVE your DTF shirts! Where do I buy one?

The Down to Fuck shirts are available in the Oasis Aquashop, and the club occasionally carries a few by the customer service desk. Check out the Oasis AquaShop for other cute Oasis apparel. 

Managing Love, Sex and Relationships with Dr. Jess O’Reilly & Brandon Ware

Visit the Oasis Aqualounge blog to learn more about how busy 'power couples' like Dr. Jess O' Reilly and Brandon Ware stay connected & maintain intimacy within their relationship.

How do busy ‘power couples’ make time for their relationships? Between managing hectic work schedules, family life and social obligations, it can be a challenge to prioritize intimacy, romance and sex.

Oasis Aqualounge Marketing Director Fatima Mechtab recently interviewed keynote speaker, best-selling author, relationship coach and sexologist Dr. Jess O’Reilly and her husband Brandon Ware; the founding partner in a Real Estate company. Dr. Jess and Brandon share personal insights into on how they maintain a balance between their professional and personal lives and how they keep the passion alive, in their marriage.

Q: How did you meet and how long have you been together?

Jess: We met in a downtown Toronto nightclub. I was bar tending and Brandon was bar-backing. We hooked up one night (I made the first, second and third move) and we moved in together, a few days later. We were so young. That was over 18 years ago and time has flown by! 

Brandon: We’ve been living together for 18.5 years and met while working at Hotel Nightclub, downtown Toronto. We met one fateful night and thankfully for me, Jess took the initiative and approached me. I couldn’t be happier that she did because I don’t think I would have ever mustered up enough courage to ask her out .

Q:  Describe your career, as individuals. What is a typical day for you, like?

Jess: I spend most of my days speaking and doing interviews. No day is typical. Last week, I filmed a few episode for TSC – a hike shopping television channel that just launched a late night show selling adult items.  Right now I’m flying home from a corporate event in Chicago where I spoke about how entrepreneurs can support their staff to have happier personal relationships (which leads to greater workplace productivity). Tomorrow, I’m shooting a segment on workplace relationships with Global TV and touring the PinkCherry.ca offices and sex toy warehouse, and the next day, I’ll head to Atlanta to facilitate a business coaching workshop for therapists and educators. Brandon will join me to co-host the podcast in Atlanta (at an incredible conference called Sex Down South) and well interview experts on a broad range of topics: relationships after trauma, how to use vulnerability to improve relationships, orgasm as a healing modality, erotic breath work and BDSM for POC. After that, I’ll come back to Toronto to speak at a big party for Moms and then head to India for a few corporate speeches.  In between speaking engagements, I do a lot of writing for press and (for my) blog. I just finished writing a book with Marla Renee Stewart; The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay. 

Brandon: I own a real estate company. A typical day starts around 6:30am and includes work from home and client meetings. I’ll find myself bouncing around the downtown core and getting pulled into calls and negotiations that weren’t planned. It’s dynamic and fun and depending on the day, can run into the late evening.

Visit the Oasis Aqualounge blog to learn more about how busy 'power couples' like Dr. Jess O' Reilly and Brandon Ware stay connected & maintain intimacy within their relationship.

Q: As a couple, what are some ways you both maintain intimacy, passion and fun in your relationship?

Jess: Life is fun! My work affords us the privilege of traveling often. Because we’re always visiting new cities and counties, novelty is the norm.  In terms of physical intimacy and sex, I think we would benefit from making more time for it. We’re great at fitting and sneaking it in even when we’re busy, but I think we’d both enjoy some more down time to be alone. I find it challenging to balance work and pleasure because my business is pleasure; when I’m having fun with work, I sometimes forget that I need to plan for fun that doesn’t involve work too. I’m trying to get better at scheduling time off. 

Brandon: There is no shortage of fun in our relationship. Although Jess’ schedule is hectic and her travel can be overwhelming, I make an effort to accompany her when possible to work from abroad but to explore new cities. It creates excitement and injects adventure but also creates intimacy as we both recognize the desire for intimacy when we’ve spent time apart.

Q: What do you feel are the biggest challenges in maintaining a relationship/marriage and how to do work through that?

Jess: I think relationships fail because expectations aren’t met. But oftentimes, we don’t communicate our expectations so our partners don’t really understand what we need and (certain) expectations can be unrealistic. We can’t expect our partners to fulfill our every need – emotionally, sexually, practically and socially. I often have to ask myself if my expectations are fair and realistic. Brandon wants to give me everything. He wants to meet my every need and so, I have to be mindful not to ask too much and make sure that I seek support and fulfillment form other parts of my life; other people, relationships, interests, and interactions. I think we’re pretty good at giving each other space and communicating our needs and boundaries. But we still slip up at times, so we are always talking about our own relationship and how our feelings and needs change over time. 

Brandon: With regard to our personal relationship, I feel the biggest challenges are privacy and ‘technoference.’ Jess’ father lives in our house so the need for privacy (at times) can be difficult. I don’t believe we’ve completely worked through all the kinks but we’ve created space in our house that is specifically for us. We also try and plan getaways or trips where I accompany Jess and add an extra day to spend some alone time together.  I also struggle with ‘techonoference’ and have had to work diligently to disconnect from tech. It’s easy to say “I have to check my phone because…” but the reality with my work is that I’m not saving babies. Once I realized that my work is important but not as important as I think it is, I was able to affect change in my behavior. I’ve implemented time restrictions on devices that I try to adhere to and I have learned to be as efficient as possible when working. It has created more personal time and time for our relationship.

Q: Tell us about a particularly memorable romantic evening/trip/date night. What stands out most in your mind and why?

Jess: A few years ago, Brandon surprised me by showing up in the audience in the middle of a speech in Halifax:

I’m standing on stage in Halifax with bright lights in my eyes and a crowd of 200 in front of me. I’m sleep deprived and almost delirious because I took a connecting red-eye from Las Vegas and went straight to work giving speeches when I landed…(So while onstage) that night … I see a handsome guy in (a) brown sweater walk into the audience and sit down. “That looks like Brandon,” I think to myself, as I keep going with my speech trying not to miss a beat. “But that can’t be Brandon. He’s in Toronto. I saw him this morning.” I’m still talking and thinking and gesticulating with the bright lights beaming in my eyes.  ” Am I losing my mind? I need to sleep…” I think, as I keep talking about the legs of the clitoris and joking that it’s not a doorbell. 

Then he smiles at me and I realize that it is Brandon. He hopped the next flight to surprise me and spend the weekend helping me at the Halifax event. He even brought my dog along to keep us company and give us one more comfort of home.  Even if I’m busy working, it just feels good to know Brandon is in the room.

Brandon: 2010 – Rome, Italy. (We are) sitting on a patio in a 1500 year old piazza having a drink; watching people pass us by, interacting with each other and living (our) daily life. (I’m not sure if it was a moment of existential reflection or perhaps it was a moment where I was relaxed, calm, peaceful while hanging with Jess. It is a memory that always stands out.

Visit the Oasis Aqualounge blog to learn more about how busy 'power couples' like Dr. Jess O' Reilly and Brandon Ware stay connected & maintain intimacy within their relationship

Q: What advice to do have for busy, ‘ power couples’ who are struggling to make time for one another?

Jess: If we’re a so-called “power couple”, it’s only because we have the privilege to be. And so, I think gratitude and giving back are the most important parts of life for us. I can’t speak for others and I know that what works for us may not work for others. But every day, I wake up and take a moment to remember what’s important to me. I’m thankful every damn day and I wouldn’t trade my life for anyone else’s. I know I may not always feel this way, as some things are out of my control. And so I don’t want to take anything for granted — especially Brandon. I know he feels the same way about me and so we always make time for one another.

A while back, Brandon read something about the days of your life being represented by jellybeans in a jar. If you live to be 100, you begin with approximately 36,525 jellybeans and each day one is removed (you get to eat it). So I often think about the jellybean that represents today and how I want to enjoy it. I only have so many jellybeans and I want to savor every last one. I can’t afford to waste a single bean (even if it’s one of those nonsensical buttered popcorn flavored ones). 

I hope we live to be 106 & 108 years old (he’s two years older than me), but I also know that there are no guarantees, so I always think about the jellybeans. 

Brandon:
1. Decide that you want to change, create a plan and put in some effort.
2. Stop making excuses. I’ve learned that simply ‘saying’ I’m going to do something without a plan is ineffective.

Carefully thinking through how I’m going to do something, making a plan and actually investing effort will pay dividends. Even if your plan doesn’t work out exactly as you’ve wanted it to, you’ve tried, learned, can modify and try again. Your willingness to make a positive change won’t go unnoticed by your partner

To learn more about Dr. Jess O’Reilly, please visit her website and Happier Couples online courses for couples. She can also be found on Twitter, Instagram and YouTube.

If you are a couple who would like to share relationship tips with our readers, we would love to feature you in our newsletter. Please email info@oasisaqualounge.com, attention Fatima Mechtab.

Lights, Camera, Satisfaction!

Are you a couple looking to fulfill a porn star fantasy? Visit Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto, Canada to learn more!

By: Fatima Mechtab

Oasis Aqualounge is a haven for couples looking to fulfill their sexual fantasies.  We can accommodate almost any desire and sometimes, those desires involve sex on camera.  As the producer of our own, in-house porn that is filmed inside the club, I have seen an increase in couples who are looking to explore the fantasy of being a porn star. 

Given that Oasis Aqualounge encourages a shame-free approach to sexuality within a body-positive environment, it makes sense that a valued guest may be more comfortable flirting with a role that has traditionally been limited to a particular physicality, age and/or conventional beauty standard. 

Traditional pornography is meant to illustrate a sexual fantasy but there is a wide disconnect between the illusion of sexual pleasure and the reality of what happens, while on set.  Professional porn stars are sometimes subject to less-than-desirable work conditions, constant interruptions from the director and physically demanding scenes and scripts, of which they have little or no control over.  Heavy editing is then used to ensure that a scene flows seamlessly.

 Like any film, paid actors are hired to play a character and we, the viewer, are then drawn in to believing that the passion is real.  Watching porn can be a healthy and pleasurable way to bond with your partner(s) but make no mistake; pornography is a business and not always reflection of true intimacy.

One of the major benefits of shooting amateur porn for sheer enjoyment is the lack of pressure so often felt by professional porn stars.  Couples can decide for themselves what turns them on and how they want to express their own sexual pleasure. They can stop as they wish or fuck for hours; they are in complete control of how their own fantasy will play out. 

One of the key characteristics of the porn filmed at Oasis Aqualounge is that the sex scenes are authentic and that the pleasure is genuine. Since Oasis Aqualounge is a sex club and not a porn studio, there is far more freedom and flexibility for couples to convey true passion and intimacy. In fact, we want couples to choose their own sexual acts because their personal comfort will then shine through, on camera.  What we provide is a safe, supportive and non-judgmental environment in which to explore their desires at their own comfort level.

For couples who are wondering how they can make their own sex tape or how to fulfill the fantasy of having sex on camera, Oasis Aqualounge offers guests the chance to perform together, usually on the fourth Tuesday of the month during our reoccurring ‘Money Shot’ event. This event brings together both exhibitionists and voyeurs, who enjoy performing in front of an appreciative audience.  Our in-house videographer will even edit and supply a copy of the film, upon a couple’s request.  Our monthly ‘Money Shot’ event also provides the opportunity to learn how a couple could achieve a porn shoot from the privacy of their own homes.  Feel free to chat with our videographer, for tips on equipment, positioning, lighting and sexy themes!

Are you a couple looking to fulfill your porn star fantasies? Do you want to make your own sex tape? Visit Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto, Canada.

If you are a couple looking to bring your porn fantasy to life, contact Oasis Aqualounge and bring forth your ideas. We offer a few different options as to the filming process and as with any desire, we want to do our best to make yours cum true!

Fatima Mechtab is the Marketing Director/Event Produce and Oasis Porn Coordinator. Jason Jones is the in-house videographer and is also the CEO of Grown Erotica. Together, Oasis Aqualounge had three films nominated during the 2018 Toronto International Porn Festival and they created the Oasis Aqualounge Porn Hub Channel. Money Shot occurs on the 4th Tuesday monthly and welcomes live porn shoots, web cam models and erotic photography.