The global Coronavirus Pandemic has forever altered the course of humanity. How we have learned to cope with isolation, how we socialize, and our health and safety approaches have changed us personally, professionally, and economically. But how does this relate to sexuality? What will our new sexual normal look like? And particularly for those who have not had physical access to their partner(s), how does that impact sexual self-care when it comes to solo individuals?
These interviews will shine a spotlight on the views of those within our vast, sex-positive community. While we have all affected this universal phenomenon, it’s essential to capture the particular experiences and opinions of how people cope from day to day. From educators to artists to performers, the COVID-19 has put a unique strain on our sexual freedoms and expressions. Let’s explore how these individuals are approaching sexual-self care during a time of isolation.
Q: Introduce yourself; who are you, and what do you do?
A: My name is Ivy, and I dedicate my life to helping people through different avenues as a life coaching, mindfulness techniques, yoga, and other alternative methods.
Q: How have you been coping with the COVID-19 crises? What are some ways you have been staying upbeat and positive?
A: I have been coping relatively well. I think it is integral to have certain things to keep a healthy mind and body, such as creating a schedule for yourself, movement through exercise /yoga, and mindfulness exercises.
Q: Tell me more about the idea of seducing/romancing oneself? Was this something you had considered before COVID-19? Or did it come to you during the outbreak?
A: This idea comes from a place of self-care. Allowing ourselves the time and space to love and appreciate our bodies. Spending time to figure out how each millimeter of skin feels like and what reactions come with it. Exploring sensations of the body. This was an idea that sparked around the topic of body dysmorphia and Ayurveda. A teacher of mine told me about oil applications used for several different reasons, one of them being to reconnect with yourself in a gentle, loving way.
Q: What are some ways that people can practice self-love/self-sensuality while in self-isolation?
A: Taking long candlelit baths/gently and slowly applying oil or cream all over the body/taking the time to enjoy foreplay with yourself, making it last a very long time/tease/practice edging/getting “sexy” for yourself (lingerie, hair, make up).
Q: Why do you feel that this is important to practice?
A: Physical touch and intimacy is an important act of self-care. It is how most species on this planet communicate affection through touch and exploration. We are so used to looking for others to fulfill this for ourselves, swing right on tinder, hitting up that booty call at 2 am, yet we rarely give ourselves the time, space, patience, and care to do it for ourselves. Now that we all have the time to romance ourselves just like you would for a potential lover on a first intimate encounter do it for yourself. Be that person that makes you feel unbelievably sexy and whole. Discover your body.
Q: In your opinion, will people continue down a path of self-reflection/self-love after the crises has ended? Or do you think people will go back to seeking outside validation?
A: I believe that the amount of time we will be in this position would actually be sufficient to create a significant difference within the habitual patterns we all have. Once we all wake up to self-love, when this is over, all there is left is integration, which will truly be beautiful to witness. Generally speaking, it takes 21 days to break a habit according to studies. We have a lot to look forward to.
Q: What is the one thing found in your home that is bringing you joy during isolation?
A: The time I’ve been given to focus on myself, the very thing I get distracted from in everyday life.
Q: Where can our readers find out more about you and your services?
A: I do have a website that s currently up and running however still under construction. For now, you can find me on on YouTube at Embrace Your Highest Potential.
Fatima Mechtab is a professional freelance writer, event producer, content creator, and marketing maverick. She has been an active member of the sex-positive community for almost a decade, working as a community organizer within the LGBTQ+ sector. Her articles have been published on such sites as SDC.com and High Canada Magazine. She is currently a fiction ghostwriter for Foxon Publishing and a contributing writer for GrowthSpire.co