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Oasis Guests Rules For Private Room

July 20, 2017

To give as many people as possible the opportunity to use the fourth floor private room, Oasis has implemented new Private Room policies. Below are the details of how it works and how you can use the space.

There is a 2 hour limit to use the Private room. Rooms at this time cannot be reserved in advance; only once you are at the club.

There is no charge to use the Private Room beyond the door fee for that day.

There must be at least 2 people to use the room. The room cannot be used for solo play.

An ID and Credit Card must be presented at the Pay station to use the room or a $40 cash deposit if you do not have a credit card. By providing us your details, you become responsible for this room within this 2 hour time limit.

You will be provided a key. Please return the key to the Pay station when you are done.

If after 2 hours you have not vacated the room, a staff member will come in and remind you.

There can be No extreme BDSM play. (No blood play, water sports, asphyxiation, rape role playing) Do Not leave your Sub tied up and leave the room.

No outside alcohol is permitted or drug paraphernalia in that room or anywhere else at Oasis. If any of these items are found, we will ask you to leave, with the possibility of being banned.

No smoking or vaping is allowed in the room or anywhere else in the club and pool area. We have designated smoking area.

The Private room is not a change room and you are not allowed to store your items in there. We provide complimentary lockers for that purpose.

Any damages to the private room after it’s been used, you will be responsible for paying for. A staff member will go and clean the room after each use to ensure it remains in good condition and to confirm no damage has been done.

If you are unsure of the rules, please ask our staff to clarify. We appreciate your co-operation as we aim to keep this space clean and welcoming for each new user.

Red Wristbands: “Not Interested”

July 20, 2017

Do you want to avoid being approached by others during your visit at Oasis Aqualounge? We now have an option to indicate that you are not interested in being approached for play.

Red wristbands will be available at the front pay station on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesdays as a complimentary service. They indicate the words ‘not interested’ directly on the bracelet.

If you see someone wearing a red wristband, please do not approach them to ask for sex/to play. You may say hello or smile but in general, we ask that you leave that guest alone.

If you are wearing a red wristband, and you feel that someone is propositioning you inappropriately, please mention it to an Oasis staff member. They will make sure that the person is made aware of the meaning of the wristband.

We hope you enjoy this new feature and please reach out to us for any comments or questions.

What is Polyamory?

July 17, 2017

On July 23rd, Oasis Aqualounge will be hosting a Polyamory Speed Dating event, starting at 8pm. The night will begin with an ‘Intro To Polyamory’ discussion for those who are curious to learn more about various styles of open relationships. Our presenter has crafted an article below, in preparation for the event. Follow her on FB, Instagram and YouTube: @SpiritSexLab

What is polyamory you ask?

The literal translation of the word is “Loving Many”. Polyamory is a consensually open, alternative relationship lifestyle that allows for multiple romantic/sexual partners. A road less traveled…

Many people are happily monogamous. Others are content being single. Then there those who are asexual. We are all truly unique – this is the beauty of being a human… Embracing the authenticity, being true to yourself and your needs.

MONOGAMY AND CULTURAL EXPECTATIONS

Most of us have been raised with the cultural expectations of meeting a soul mate, falling in love and living happily ever after while being monogamous throughout the length of the marriage. This approach works for some but, unfortunately, not for others.

The reality that many people face is that the divorce rates are 50-75%, 30-60% of married partners engage in infidelity and 50% of children suffer from divorce…

According to leading Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel, the reason why the long term monogamy may not work for everyone (why sexuality suffers, and partners don’t connect as deeply as the time passes) is due to the opposing needs human beings have.

OPPOSING NEEDS

“Fire needs air. Desire needs space.” – Esther Perel

Our two opposing needs are – security/safety and ownership on one hand; and novelty, freedom and spontaneity on the other. The more accustomed we become to our partners, the more secure – the routine kicks in and we start taking each other for granted.

There are various ways, of course, in which this duality could be approached within a context of a monogamous relationship. However, since we’re currently focusing on Polyamory, here’s more information on how this alternative model works.

ALTERNATIVE MODEL

So what happens if you open a door to an alternative way of being…

Let’s say you’ve always wanted to connect with more than one partner – emotionally, sexually, mentally, spiritually
You felt compelled to have more love in your life, but wanted to do it in an honest and open way
You and your partner have different sexual interests that you’d like to explore separately
You want to bring new energy, passion and depth into your life…

Polyamory may help meet these needs. It may allow for more love, spice, novelty and depth. Not unlike other relationship models, polyamory will help you grow and learn more about yourself and this world. Become more self-confident and authentic.

As with any other relationship models, you may also encounter new challenges such as focusing closely on time management, communications, conflict resolution as well as managing your emotions.

ROAD TO AUTHENTICITY

Regardless of which relationship model you choose – it’s important to follow your inner voice and stay authentically aligned with who you are. The possibilities are infinite. Be yourself.

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