What is Polyamory?

On July 23rd, Oasis Aqualounge will be hosting a Polyamory Speed Dating event, starting at 8pm.  The night will begin with an ‘Intro To Polyamory’ discussion for those who are curious to learn more about various styles of open relationships.  Our presenter has crafted an article below, in preparation for the event. Follow her on FB, Instagram and YouTube: @SpiritSexLab

What is polyamory you ask?

The literal translation of the word is “Loving Many”. Polyamory is a consensually open, alternative relationship lifestyle that allows for multiple romantic/sexual partners. A road less traveled…

Many people are happily monogamous. Others are content being single. Then there those who are asexual. We are all truly unique – this is the beauty of being a human… Embracing the authenticity, being true to yourself and your needs.

MONOGAMY AND CULTURAL EXPECTATIONS

Most of us have been raised with the cultural expectations of meeting a soul mate, falling in love and living happily ever after while being monogamous throughout the length of the marriage. This approach works for some but, unfortunately, not for others.

The reality that many people face is that the divorce rates are 50-75%, 30-60% of married partners engage in infidelity and 50% of children suffer from divorce…

According to leading Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel, the reason why the long term monogamy may not work for everyone (why sexuality suffers, and partners don’t connect as deeply as the time passes) is due to the opposing needs human beings have.

OPPOSING NEEDS

“Fire needs air. Desire needs space.” – Esther Perel

Our two opposing needs are – security/safety and ownership on one hand; and novelty, freedom and spontaneity on the other. The more accustomed we become to our partners, the more secure – the routine kicks in and we start taking each other for granted.

There are various ways, of course, in which this duality could be approached within a context of a monogamous relationship. However, since we’re currently focusing on Polyamory, here’s more information on how this alternative model works.

ALTERNATIVE MODEL

So what happens if you open a door to an alternative way of being…

  • Let’s say you’ve always wanted to connect with more than one partner – emotionally, sexually, mentally, spiritually
  • You felt compelled to have more love in your life, but wanted to do it in an honest and open way
  • You and your partner have different sexual interests that you’d like to explore separately
  • You want to bring new energy, passion and depth into your life…

Polyamory may help meet these needs. It may allow for more love, spice, novelty and depth. Not unlike other relationship models, polyamory will help you grow and learn more about yourself and this world. Become more self-confident and authentic.

As with any other relationship models, you may also encounter new challenges such as focusing closely on time management, communications, conflict resolution as well as managing your emotions.

ROAD TO AUTHENTICITY

Regardless of which relationship model you choose – it’s important to follow your inner voice and stay authentically aligned with who you are. The possibilities are infinite. Be yourself.

AquaFlirts at Waterfront Festival & Salsa On St. Clair

Summer belongs to the Oasis AquaFlirts! Our fun and flirty team of brand ambassadors celebrated the holiday Monday at the Redpath Waterfront Festival on July 3rd.  They spent the day touring around HTO Park, while taking pictures of the various attractions.

Among these were a  giant chess set, crafting stations, entertainment and giant rubber duck, the which was docked at the harbor for the Canada Day long weekend. The AquaFlirts brought ‘Proud & Flirty’ balloons to give away and even AquaBella  joined in the fun! The weather was hot and sunny and the AquFlirts stayed cool in their promotional clothing, courtesy of the Oasis AquaShop clothing line.

On Saturday July 8th, the AquaFlirts stepped out to the annual TD Salsa in Toronto Festival.  They were able to incorporate a few dance moves into their promoting while handing out marketing material to interested guests.

If you want to catch our team in action, they will be at the Toronto Outdoor Art Exhibition on July 15th and BIG On Bloor Festival on July 22nd.  Celebrate summer with us.

Oasis AquaFlirts at Pride 2017: Thanks For Coming Out!

The Oasis AquaFlirts  were in full flirty force during  Pride 2017 which was celebrated throughout the entire month of June.  This fun-loving and diverse team of promotional staff spread the Oasis message of sex and body positivity in and around the Church and Wellesley Village  and the downtown core.  Our newest AquaFlirt AquaBella joined in the fun and loved being the center of attention!

In addition to offerings of 50% coupons for first-time guests of the club, the AquaFlirts also handed out branded helium balloons and  Pride tattoos, that were created especially for Pride Month-proud and flirty indeed!

 

The AquaFlirts love meeting new people and made a lot of friends during Toronto Pride. Whether it was tourists  visiting Toronto or Pride festivities for the first time, the AquaFlirts offered a friendly smile, information about Oasis Aqualounge and fun photo opportunities with various groups involved in the festival. Catch them all summer long at upcoming events in Toronto this summer.